It's Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction

by Andrew Susskind

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Author: Andrew Susskind

Publisher: Central Recovery Press

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ISBN 10: 1949481069
ISBN 13: 978-1949481068

Ending compulsive sexual behavior is just the beginning.

Drawing on personal and professional experience, psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with brokenheartedness. He offers strategies to cultivate sustainable sexual sobriety, sharing his own healing narrative, as well as those of others who’ve chosen to bear their truths. No one is ever too hurt or isolated to achieve reliable relationships and emotional intimacy. This is a guidebook for every person seeking long-term healing from sex addiction.

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It’s Not About the Sex offers hope and direction to those recovering from sexual compulsivity. As daunting as recovery can seem, this book helps readers gain a sense of calm by recognizing key issues that will move them forward in their lives. Susskind provides a pathway to let go of shame while garnering self-compassion and understanding. The author’s years of experience also bring depth and breadth to the healing process. From living in fantasy to embracing reality, from letting go of perfectionism and image management to accepting the imperfections of humanity, and through its exploration of the possibilities of recovery, this powerful book reinforces the reader’s commitment to sexual sobriety.―Claudia Black, PhD, Author, Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction in the Family and Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction

Going beyond current tension around out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as whether we should link sexual compulsivity to a pathologizing, disease-oriented addiction model, Susskind addresses the need for humans to learn how to connect, love, and thrive in intimate relationships. The author cites brokenheartedness as cause, and his is a fresh, much needed voice in the barren landscape of treating and overcoming problematic sexual expression. This is an openhearted framework for navigating toward a life filled with healthy sexual pleasures.―Patti Britton, PhD, MPH, Clinical Sexologist and author, The Art of Sex Coaching

It’s Not About the Sex is a transformative guide for those in recovery from sexual compulsivity. Andrew’s compassionate, forward-thinking book will help you begin and sustain meaningful connection. You will be deeply inspired by his uplifting insights as well as his own story.―Sandra Foster, PhD, Senior Faculty, College of Executive Coaching and Coauthor, Positive Psychology in Coaching

Susskind does a superb job analyzing the emotional underpinnings of sexual addiction. I particularly enjoy his human, non-mechanistic approach.―Laurence Heller, PhD, Founder of the NeuroAffective Relational Model and Author, Healing Developmental Trauma

This groundbreaking book fills a huge gap in helping sex addicts take the next steps toward sustainable, long-term recovery as they realize their fullest potential for intimacy.―Alexandra Katehakis, PhD and Author, Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation

Focusing not only on behavior change, Susskind’s inspiring approaches facilitate healing and recovery by addressing intimacy and development of deeper connection and meaning in relationships.―Larissa Mooney, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor, UCLA Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences Director, UCLA Addiction Medicine Clinic, Coeditor, The Assessment and Treatment of Addiction

With sexual addiction, stopping compulsive behavior is only the first step in recovery. Sex addicts must also learn to live happier, healthier, more intimately connected lives. In It’s Not About the Sex, Andrew Susskind provides a roadmap for living life to its fullest while healing from this debilitating addiction.―Robert Weiss, PhD, LCSW, CSAT-S, Author, Sex Addiction 101, Out of the Doghouse, and Prodependence

About the Author

Andrew Susskind is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Somatic Experiencing and Brainspotting Practitioner, and Certified Group Psychotherapist in private practice since 1992. His ability to relate compassionately to people experiencing addiction, trauma, and codependency stems from his own recovery. In 2014, Susskind released his workbook From Now On: Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery. He is based in Los Angeles.

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