Why Bother? Because Self-Help Is Never Stupid: TRANSFORM BEING PISSED-OFF, NUMB, in DENIAL, or EMOTIONAL INTO PEACE & PASSION
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Author: Martha Du'Sage
Publisher: Know Time Communication Books
Paperback:
ISBN 10: 1627470530
ISBN 13: 978-1627470537
“Why Bother? Because Self-Help Is Never Stupid,” was written to encourage you to find a deeper knowing, awareness and appreciation for why it is important to bother. We live in a mad, pissed-off world, and we all want ways to step beyond just coping and into moments of peace, joy and contentment. Anger, frustration, stress and more are triggered by the ego’s reaction to something that occurred in the past, and holds us hostage from living a more ideal future. Pain, abuse and suffering cannot be transformed by trivializing or denying its existence. Heart-centered consciousness, while becoming main-stream, is often misunderstood, or perceived as being weird yet offers a profound way to bring kindness, gentleness and compassion to everything. It is through integrating the heart with all parts of self that brings truth, light and beauty to the darkness that resides within all of us, thereby allowing all parts and all voices of self to harmonize. Hence a big “why bother” of this book. Living through heart-centered conscious knowing and integrity provides a sense of strength, courage, support and comfort while facing the sometimes uncomfortable truth of reality. This book acknowledges that solving problems is not always as simple as “just sending love,” as many New-Age philosophies will teach. It runs a gamut of topics, including creation, miscreation, co-creation, ego, how to embrace and accept all aspects of self and others, forgiveness, abuse, dysfunction, meditation and exercises to process fear and anger but with an element of lightness and humor that isn’t always common in self-help. Why such a wide range? Because: our life experiences span a wide spectrum which is deeper than just accepting the good with the bad. The author uses her own fondness for rock music, referring to over 80 songs, knowing that music offers a healing resonance, and lyrics give voice to those who have not yet found theirs, adding an uplifting element to our tumultuous lives, inviting you to find the music, harmony and vibration of your soul.
Review
Du'Sage speaks to the particular revelation that, "the unconventional expands what is possible". "Moment(s) of recognition" and acceptance of her own growth, address the "contradictions, perceptions, interpretations, and misinterpretations" that trip us up along our own journey. Du'Sage bridges the gap between self-help and clinical, with inspirationally gained insight and application. Find your own truth, and begin to experience fully the totality of who you are!
Cheryl Wheeler MA, NCC, LAC
My Counseling Solutions: Holistic Perspectives
"The book gets my personal recommendation, and I feel that the world would be a more light-filled place if everybody read this book. Buy it, read it, live it, then share it with others you think may benefit from its message. This is a heartful work that can be read again and again over the years, and always get something new out of it.
"If everybody in the world could fully live what Du'Sage shares, our world would be a far more developed, compassionate, and transformed place."
- Keith Varnum
From the Author
My goal is to help those who have suffered, from any type of abuse, find their voice and step beyond recovery; step through the looking glass into conscious awareness. Abuse, particularly sexual, is uncomfortable for many to discuss and causes victims to suffer in silence. The trauma from abuse can cause some victims to suffer for a lifetime. Heart-centered, spiritual, conscious awareness can dramatically lessen that effect. Statistically, this problem is off the charts, and only based on what is reported. With statistics so high, and so many suffering in silence, chances are you know someone who has been abused. Helping victims find a voice, and heal from this issue will dramatically reduce the problem from ever being created in the first place, but it starts with helping those who are already suffering.
From the Inside Flap
"Why Bother? Because Self-help Is Never Stupid can be a challenge to digest because it provides practical, meaningful direction about the process of, and challenges with, understanding and releasing aspects of the ego. But this book has changed the way I engage with the world and opened the door for me to embark down a path of more peace, joy and inner freedom. The book is about getting to the heart of each and every one of us--through the path of positive experiences that are intensely transformative.
The work is about exploring Truth in its many forms and contexts. You'll discover a fun and very different treatise with a lot of heart and a wonderful exploration of the Real Deal. It's about tackling difficult elements of our own spiritual development in potentially uncomfortable, revealing and rewarding ways. As long as you are open to even a few of the delightful life-enriching points of view, this book will absolutely help you transform your life for the better. And because of who you'll become, you'll also immediately transform other peoples' lives and bring them more joy, peace, abundance and laughter.
The book has brilliant, fun, engaging suggestions and perspectives to help you transform your life in ways that make it easy to love your life more. Author Du'Sage didn't always have it easy in her life, and in addition to sharing her profound wisdom, she shares about how she overcame a traumatic upbringing and challenging early environment.
I particularly enjoyed how Du'Sage explores our common life experiences such as judgment and compassion, our inner drives and how they sometimes lead us into situations that conflict with our values, and how our own sense of our self-worth can either set us free--or lock us into a prison of our own making. I also really appreciated the weaving in of synchronicity and interconnection, which gives the book both a sense of mystery and familiarity.
Du'Sage provides much needed insight into the phenomenon that we've all experienced in our life: self-sabotage and self-defeat. She offers keen illumination on the shadow or denial aspects of ourselves that we have cut off, hidden, repressed, or decided were not acceptable to show other people.
The shadow is the part of us that feels unsafe being authentic. Du'Sage provides wonderful insight into how each of us developed our shadow or denial, how we can learn to identify it in our lives, and what we can do to move through our shadow into the light of our true greatness.
At the core of this book are the themes of light and greatness. Because the shadow, fear and denial are the very things that stands in the way of us living the lives of our dreams. Du'Sage clearly communicates this core message that our "Dark Side" is not be feared, but rather, to be viewed as an essential aspect of ourselves that we must understand and transform into light if we are to move forward in the story of our lives.
I found the author's references to specific rock music songs to be very enlightening and helpful in understanding her main themes.
The book gets my personal recommendation, and I feel that the world would be a more light-filled place if everybody read this book. Buy it, read it, live it, then share it with others you think may benefit from its message. This is a heartful work that can be read again and again over the years, and always get something new out of it.
This book has changed some of the ways in which I live my life, and it has given me support, encouragement, and insight, to pursue real transformation with courage. If everybody in the world could fully live what Du'Sage shares, our world would be a far more developed, compassionate, and transformed place.
- Keith Varnum
From the Back Cover
ABOUT THE COVER
This is a last minute addition to the book because interest began brewing around the cover and its meaning.
There are a lot of pissed off people walking around this planet, for many reasons. Some proudly wear that anger, some hide it, some have it under control and then something triggers it (look out) and others are so deep in denial they don't even know it's there. I used to be one of them. Then we have those that are overly emotional and unknowingly actually use this as a protection mechanism or avoidance technique. We humans, have different ways of coping with emotion. Our less than ideal emotion often comes from of some form of abuse and often we feel victimized and that even applies to the tough guy or bully. When we feel this way it's just a lack of understanding or lack of seeing the bigger picture in our mastery of third dimension.
Well that was more about the subtitle, but that's where all the symbolism comes in on the cover. The bear represents what happens when the wounded child grows up. There is a raging pissed-off bear inside even if we try to hide it, deny it or ignore it. However, peace is possible when we learn to integrate and operate with the heart as the center rather than the head and ego. That's where the lotus comes in on the bear's heart.
If we don't deal with what lies below the surface, we can explode like a volcano. Hence the volcano in the back-ground and something I use a metaphor in the book a few times. It's helpful to understand it is exactly those volcanic eruptions that we can use to transform like a butterfly and create stability in a chronically unstable world. The balloons can represent lightness but also represent being numb and having your head in the clouds rather than being grounded.
We can be firmly grounded and divinely connected to pure source at the same time. This is how we transform being pissed-off into peace and passion, because the combined elements of being grounded and divinely connected, opens us up to a world of possibility that only existed in the unimagined parts of self.
My wounded child came from being sexually abused by 2 non-blood-related family members. One in 5 girls and one in 6 boys have suffered from some form of abuse and that is only what is reported. My abuse was never report and most that I have met that also suffered abuse or rape never reported it either. This is my way of validating the feeling of being pissed-off, numb, in denial or emotional; to let others know that it's okay if they aren't "over it" yet, but that they can eventually do just that and find peace.
About the Author
Martha Du'Sage has stepped through the looking glass of dysfunction and sexual abuse to discover, what we can all discover, an end to suffering. Through over 20 years of practicing heart-centered conscious knowing, she has first-hand, rather than clinical experience to share helping others to see things in a new light which creates peace within.
With greater attraction to the unconventional, attempting to break down worn-out paradigms and belief, she found herself often wondering, "who says it has to be that way?" The desire to play in the alternative world led her to seek knowledge from the mystical realms. Her work is a combination of learning from many teachers of consciousness as well as training in NLP, Deeksha - Oneness Blessing, Reiki, massage, reflexology, aromatherapy, body wrapping, fitness and nutrition, and more. Besides writing and energy work, Martha creates aromatherapy blends as a compliment to your inner work.
While resisting rigid belief she finds what is considered the unconventional world is actually more natural and authentic. The love of what is natural drives her to help others put an end to their struggles. Studies in consciousness and a desire not to adhere to any one system of belief have led her to practice energy work intuitively. She encourages you to embrace the full spectrum of you.
There was a time when Martha found herself in a profession saying, "this is what I do, not who I am." To honor the "I AM" presence that is in all of us, she decided it was time to offer her voice to those that have not yet discovered theirs, due to past trauma and abuse. Hence, the birth of this book - Why Bother? Because Self-Help is Never Stupid.
Currently, she is in the process of developing several workshops, including The Heart Pillar which was introduced in this book. Contact information can be found at marthadusage.com. Various private sessions are available to help you discover the "I AM" in you.
