Relationship Sanity: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Relationship Sanity is a roadmap to a thriving relationship. In their preceding book, Irrelationship, Borg and his colleagues located relationship insanity in couples’ mutual fear of intimacy and all the ways they defend against closeness and vulnerability. In this book, to help couples face and transcend that fear, they make available a complex, rich, detailed, and ultimately simple and doable process that helps couples engage in a mutual process of giving and receiving that enables them to become present to each other, thus achieving and sustaining intimacy. Any couple will be enriched by using the myriad insights and exercises, and any therapist will be empowered to help couples by using them in their practice.―Harville Hendrix, PhD and, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and Making Marriage Simple

Borg, Brenner, and Berry have presented in this volume an accessible yet complex and sophisticated road map to assist couples, both those seemingly doing well and those in trouble, on the challenging journey to an intimate, rewarding, and sane relationship. Skillfully illuminating how early attachment strategies shape our adult assumptions about intimacy, the authors offer astutely designed exercises to be done by couples, alone and together, that will deepen understanding and awareness, for the self and for one another. Exposing and making sense of the hidden insecurities and conflicts most of us harbor about intimacy, the authors open up a compassionate path toward healing and growth. The wealth of knowledge and expertise here is immensely impressive and will certainly be of tremendous benefit to those couples ready to open themselves to the innate human potential for deeply satisfying intimacy.―Daniel Shaw, psychotherapist and author of Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation

Filled with tips, exercises, and case studies, Relationship Sanity is a solidly researched approach to improving relationships through mindfully viewing your relationship as a third entity, separate from yourselves individually, which requires care and nurturing. It’s a valuable tool whether you are beginning a relationship with a new partner or have been married and assumed you knew everything about your spouse.―Diana Kirschner, PhD, bestselling author of Love in 90 Days