Author: Janyne McConnaughey PhD
Publisher: Cladach Publishing
Paperback:
ISBN 10: 1945099127
ISBN 13: 978-1945099120
'With creativity and honesty, Janyne McConnaughey goes deep, using a narrative approach to explore pain, trauma, and healing...'(Thomas Jay Oord) Interweaving her own dissociative-personality story, her expertise in child development, and beloved literary characters, Dr. McConnaughey demonstrates how she worked to re-frame the unhealthy messages she internalized as a child. This healing process cleared a path to behavioral change, forgiveness, growing faith, and the rediscovery of simple joys. The unfolding relationship between the author and her child self, Jeannie, illustrates the dedication, trials, and triumphs inherent in developing an attachment relationship that is necessary for full healing.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction /9
PART I: MY CHILD SELVES GO TO THERAPY /13
1. Jeannie and God Make a Plan /15
2. Jumping Down a Rabbit Hole /19
3. Gathering in the Kitchen /26
4. Table Conversations /35
5. After-Dinner Therapy /46
6. Campfire Reflections /52
PART II: WHAT MY CHILD SELVES LEARNED /60
7. Attachment and the 'Mother' /62
8. Trauma Needs a 'Mother' /70
9. When Survival Looks Like Resilience /80
10. The Life Every Child Deserves /91
11. A Tangle of Feelings and Emotions /103
12. Of Lies and Forgetting /114
13. The Pervasiveness of Shame /123
14. How Secrets Silence Children /133
15. Becoming My Own 'Mother' /139 PART III: HOW MY CHILD SELVES HEALED /145
16. Healing and Cookies in the Kitchen /147
17. Healing through Live Storytelling /155
18. Healing through Literature /162
19. Healing through Play /173
20. Healing by Reframing /183
21. Healing to Forgive /193
22. Epilogue: A BRAVE Tribute /207
Addendum I: Synopsis of BRAVE /211
Addendum II: Foreword to BRAVE /213
Addendum III: ACE Study /215
Addendum IV: Adoption/Foster Care /216
Addendum V: The Story of the Boxes /219
Review
'I strongly recommend this book to educators who wish to understand their students who may be dissociating in class.'
~Dr. MELISSA SADIN, Attachment and Trauma Network
'Janyne generously and openly brings the reader into her process of healing from her childhood trauma. If you want a real-time glimpse into the minds and hearts of children who are living their truths of coping with maternal neglect...if you want a deeper understanding of childhood trauma and healing...read this book.'
~LIZ HUNTER, MFT
'With creativity and honesty, Janyne McConnaughey goes deep. Using a narrative approach to explore pain, trauma, and healing, Janyne carries her readers along with insightful prose. This is a great followup to Brave!.'
~THOMAS JAY OORD, author of God Can't: How to Believe in God and Love after Tragedy, Abuse, and Other Evils
'Janyne McConnaughey continues writing her way into our hearts with [this] playful and imaginative labor of love. Insightful and hope-filled. A fantastical weaving of story, instruction and resilience.'
~LON MARSHALL, MFT
'In this clever follow-up to Brave, Janyne interweaves the story of her childhood selves with that of Alice and her trip to Wonderland. This heart-wrenching, harrowing, hopeful story has changed the way I approach ministry. It is a must read for those who hope to minister effectively to the many in their congregations who have experienced childhood trauma.'
~SUSAN ARMSTRONG, DM, pastor of care and discipleship
'A masterful journey into a human psyche deeply affected by the dragon of trauma. A candid and gifted storytelling and fascinating integration of the latest findings in trauma research, attachment theory, self-compassion and forgiveness. Janyne's reflections on God in the aftermath of trauma is paradigm shifting and invaluable. This book is not only for those affected by trauma, but also for therapists desiring to understand their heroic clients more deeply and walk alongside them more effectively.'
~MARK KARRIS, author of Season of Heartbreak: Healing for the Heart, Brain, and Soul
'Dr. McConnaughey has allowed her child selves to share their memories of trauma. I felt as if I were in the room watching her interact with the children. I was compelled to keep reading even though these are truly heart-breaking stories. I recommend it to anyone who needs a gentler introduction to the reality and lasting effects of childhood sexual abuse and trauma, insecure attachment, and Dissociative Identity Disorders.'
~LESLIE R. MIKESELL, PhD
'A masterpiece, cohesive and expertly crafted. As an educator, I believe this book will enable anyone who works with children to see the unseen, to better recognize and touch with grace the heart of a silent sufferer.'
~SUSAN ELAINE JENKINS, author of SCANDALON: Running from Shame and Finding God's Scandalous Love
'A window into the thought processes of a child in trauma.' --~ROSIE LOLESS, elementary-school teacher
About the Author
Janyne McConnaughey, Ph.D., retired from a forty-year career in education in order to heal from the effects of the childhood abuse she suffered. During therapy, she wrote her way to healing and now is redeeming her story by helping others to understand and heal from childhood trauma.
Along with BRAVE: A Personal Story of Healing Childhood Trauma and the companion book, Jeannie's BRAVE CHILDHOOD: Understanding Behavior through the Lens of Trauma and Attachment, Janyne is working on two forthcoming sequels. She also keeps busy blogging at Janyne(dot)org, and guest blogging for other organizations addressing trauma and attachment. Janyne enjoys full-time RV living with her husband, Scott, at the edge of Garden of the Gods in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and treasures the time she spends in the Seattle area with her children and grandchildren.
