The Same but Different: How Twins Can Live, Love, and Learn to Be Individuals

"The Same but Different presents a stunning, in-depth look at the lives of adult twins as they face the twin challenges of closeness and independence, love and resentment in their evolving relations with each other."
-Nancy L. Segal, PhD, Professor of Psychology, CSU Fullerton, and author of Born Together--Reared Apart and Someone Else's Twin

"Shows adult twins how to 'out their feelings' about their twinship, . . . explore them in a healthy manner, and deal with their twin issues so they can pursue more independent and fulfilling lives."
-Susan M. Heim, blogger, author of It's Twins! and Twice the  Love, and coauthor of Boosting Your Baby's Brain Power

"The Same But Different bursts open the doors on the emotional struggles and triumphs of twinship . . . a must read for any twin, as well as any parent of twins."
-Natalie Diaz, founder of Twiniversity and author of What to Do When You're Having Two

"Joan Friedman is one of those rare twin experts who tells the whole truth about the experience of being born alongside another person, growing up constantly lumped and compared. The Same but Different explores the powerful complexities of trying to build separate friendships, careers, and romances when one is paired - genetically and societally - with another person. Required reading for adult twins and the people closest to them."
-Abigail Pogrebin, author of One and the Same: My Life as an Identical Twin and What I've Learned about Everybody's Struggle to Be Singular

"This book offers a deep and thoughtful exploration of the experience of being a twin and the route toward individual development through the minefield of opposing desires regarding sameness and difference. It recognizes that each twinship is as unique as the individual twins in it."
-Vivienne Lewin, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, London, author of The Twin in the Transference, and contributor to Siblings in Development

"Friedman acquired her stripes as a twin herself and as the mother of twins--all in addition to her academic credentials as a twin specialist. She is a destination writer for anyone seeking information on this topic. An excellent combination of psychology and self-help; unequivocally recommended." -Library Journal

Do you sometimes resent your twin and then feel guilty about it? Are you frustrated that no one understands what it is like to be a twin? People think being a twin is mysterious, fun, and magical, but in reality, twin relationships can be difficult to navigate.

"The Same but Different" offers insights on and solutions to the challenges that arise when young adult twins are expected to be independent, self-assured "singletons" after having been raised as twins. This book was written to help twins, their families, and significant others to understand more about the intricacies of adult twin relationships.

Dr. Joan A. Friedman is a gifted psychotherapist who has devoted many years of her professional career to educating twins and their families about twins' emotional needs. As a twin herself and the parent of fraternal twin sons, she is a definitive expert about twin development. She is also the author of "Emotionally Healthy Twins: A New Philosophy for Parenting Two Unique Children". She has spoken to culturally diverse groups of twins around the world. Dr. Friedman's current work focuses on issues that adult twins confront as they adjust to life as singletons after having been raised as twins.