You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

“[A] refreshing and readable account of the complexities of communication between men and women.” (The New York Times Book Review)

“A chatty, earnest and endearing book that promises here–and–now rewards.” (Los Angeles Times)

“People are telling Tannen that the book is saving their marriages.” (Washington Post)

“A novelist’s ear for the way people speak with a rare power of original analysis.” (Oliver Sacks)

“Utterly fascinating. . . . A classic in the field.” (San Francisco Chronicle)

Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words.

Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.

Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.