How to Be a Grown Up: The Ten Secret Skills Everyone Needs to Know

“Stacy Kaiser lets us in on the secrets of human behavior: change is always possible! How to Be a Grown Up is a smart, funny read. But more importantly, Stacy gives you the power to create the life you want.” (Peter Walsh, author of the New York Times bestseller It's All Too Much)

“How to Be a Grown Up should be required reading for anyone wishing to be (or trying to raise) an emotionally-fit, responsible adult in the modern world. In clear and simple language this book provides everything you need to know to have a successful life.” (Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret)

“Awesome therapist Stacy Kaiser really hits a home run with How to Be a Grown Up. I particularly like the chapter on appearance. I can give you the million dollar workout but if your head isn’t in the game your body won’t follow. Stacy, YOU ROCK!” (Harvey Walden IV, Celebrity Fit Club host and fitness trainer)

“Stacy has adapted a no-nonsense approach that cuts through the clatter of every grown up’s life and reaches through the noise with clear tools. She shows us that it is possible to have a busy adult life full of responsibility and still find fun and freedom.” (Drew Pinsky, MD)

Are you pleased with the progress you've made so far in achieving your hopes and dreams? Are you excited about what's coming next in your life? Or do you need a complete overhaul?

In How to Be a Grown Up, renowned psychotherapist Stacy Kaiser demonstrates the life-changing benefits of embracing the concept of the "fully loaded grown up." After counseling thousands of patients, she has identified ten critical areas that determine success, happiness, and fulfillment—from conscientious money management to developing strong coping skills to building the right kind of friendships and intimate partnerships.

How to Be a Grown Up begins with "The Quiz," the first step to empowering you by helping you become an expert on your own life, exploring what you really want and need in every area of life. In chapters packed full of tips, tools, and exercises, Stacy takes you on a journey of self-discovery in which you evaluate your individual strengths and weaknesses as well as identify self-sabotaging traits and learn how to change them once and for all.

Had trouble keeping your cool the last time you talked to your mom? Read up on the secrets of dynamic communicators. Reevaluating your circle of friends? Discover the six types of grown-up friendships and appreciate your relationships for what they are. Stuck on a frustrating rung of the corporate ladder? Learn the traits that every employer loves—and how to master them yourself.

Fully loaded grown ups are fully empowered and in charge of their own lives. They are able to initiate change instead of just reacting to events, bounce back from setbacks and disappointments, and enjoy more satisfying relationships—with everyone, including themselves. Most important, fully loaded grown ups enjoy true freedom—not the kind envisioned as a child, meaning eating ice cream for dinner, but absolute confidence in their ability to live their own best life.

With her trademark mix of warmth and toughness, Stacy motivates readers to rally their strengths, let go of childish, outgrown attachments, and arrive at a peaceful balance between freedom and responsibility. Whether you feel you've lost control of your life or you just need a tune-up in an area or two, How to Be a Grown Up is a wise and witty life guide for the twenty-first century.

Stacy Kaiser, M.A.M.F.T., is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. With a reputation for bringing a unique mix of thoughtful and provocative insights to a wide range of topics, she has appeared on major networks, including CNN, NBC, CBS, MSNBC, and FOX. In addition to her numerous television appearances, her expertise and perspective have been solicited by a diverse group of clients, including major corp-orations, public institutions, government agencies, and philanthropic organizations. Stacy is also the chief program officer for ToughLOVE. She lives in Los Angeles with her two children.