BPD from the Husband's POV: The Roses and Rage of My Wife’s Borderline Personality Disorder (Roses and Rage BPD)
Publisher: Independently published
ISBN 10: 1702625346
ISBN 13: 978-1702625340
Patching the fist-sized hole in the wall…
…and sweeping up broken glass.
Just another day in your marriage to borderline personality disorder.
Maybe your spouse has never been officially diagnosed. Maybe you think the problems are mostly your fault. You’re beginning to wonder if every day doesn’t have to be a raging battlefield.
You are not the first husband to face this.
You can find solutions to her logic-defying actions.
There is finally a book written by a husband of a “Borderline” for the husbands of Borderlines in non-clinical, “real-life” language.
The author, Robert Page, has been through it all: weekends lost to arguments, endless false accusations, wild mood swings, manipulative threats, self-harm, being isolated from friends, public embarrassment, $1,000s in related expenses, and even criminal prosecution—all because he loved his wife too much to confront the root problem: her borderline personality disorder.
You don’t have to face being the spouse of BPD alone. You can avoid the mistakes made by others, often involving emotional abuse, financial ruin and even jail time. There are actions you can take to save your marriage, your happiness, and maybe even someone’s life.
Much more than an overview of BPD, you’ll learn all about the disorder through the vivid and cringe-inducing accounts of Page’s marriage to a BP. His “What I Wish I Had Done” revelations are invaluable!
You’ll be so relieved you found this book because you’ll see yourself in the riveting first-person accounts and realize there are roses to be found beyond the rage.
Get your copy today and begin reclaiming your self-respect and positive outlook.
Want to know more? Inside this book of stunning revelations you’ll find all this and more:
- The most recent official descriptions of BPD
- Harrowingly truthful accounts of BPD symptoms
- Facts to help you decide if your wife has traits of BPD
- Actions you can take to control a rage-filled environment
- What efforts might save your relationship
- And, for some of you, what can be done to end your marriage safely
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--I've read every BPD book in the first 20 pages of amazon.com list, and this one stands out for offering a candid description of what it was like for one partner of a BPD. ~ Amazon reader review
--Fills an important void in the BPD literature. ~ Amazon reader
--I appreciate the non clinal approach to your writing as everything I have read is clinical in nature and it all falls woefully short of the real life experiences that we endure. Thank you for sharing your experiences! ~ Amazon reader review
--I appreciate you're book truly, because not knowing what goes inside his head is scary to me, so thank you. ~ Reader who has Borderline Personality Disorder
From the Author
INTERVIEW WITH AUTHOR ROBERT PAGE
You stress in your books on borderline personality disorder that they are written by the spouse of a Borderline, for the spouses of Borderlines. Why do you think this is important?
There are many books about BPD written by clinicians and scholars. And there is a growing collection of memoirs by those with BPD. But as a BPD spouse, I was looking for books I could relate to and couldn't find any. My wife suggested, "Write the book you wish someone had written for you," and that's what I've done.
Since you don't have a clinical background, what experts did you turn to when writing the material?
Well, of course I started with the classic I Hate You--Don't Leave Me from Dr. Jerold Kreisman and Hal Straus. Next was Stop Walking on Eggshells from Paul Mason and Randi Kreger. I was also quite impressed with the memoir from Merri Lisa Johnson, Girl in Need of a Tourniquet, named after a song lyric from Aimee Mann I've liked for years. From beyond the immediate realm of BDP, I looked at books from people like Martha Stout, Shahida Arabi, and Marsha Linehan with her very interesting DBT Training Skills Manuel.
One of your BPD books is clearly aimed at husbands who have wives with BPD. Are you concerned about appearing sexist or insenstive towards men with BPD?
Not at all. I'm a husband who had a wife with BPD, so obviously that's the perspective I'm obligated to write from. Nowhere in my books do I support the horribly antiquated concept of BPD being a "woman's disorder" because both men and women suffer in great numbers. In fact, I strongly encourage a wife out there to write a book about having a husband with BPD so that both perspectives are represented.
What about the non-clinical, "down and dirty street guide" side of your writing?
This is what sets my book apart from the others. I'm very willing to draw from non-traditional sources like blogs, song lyrics, and journals. This is what I think gives me credibility with readers who are truly suffering from BPD in their household. They appreciate the vivid if not cringe-inducing descriptions of what it's like to be in the midst of completely bizarre behavior. Sometimes BPD is humorous, sometimes it totally sucks, and I'm not afraid to address the entire spectrum using everyday language.
What positive suggestions can you offer spouses of BPD?
The first point I keep hammering at in my writing is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! As isolated and awful as you might feel, right this minute there are thousands of people facing a similar experience. We are all kindred spirits of the same tribe even if we never meet. Secondly, I traveled a path through the darkest levels of BPD and am happier now than at any time in my life. There is hope. There are solutions. But you've got to be willing seek the truth. Whether it's through my books or not. As the expression says, "Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid."