Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN 10: 0738213284
ISBN 13: 978-0738213286
A proven plan for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, including divorce, with practical strategies for healing, getting your confidence back, and finding true love
It's over--and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of people transform their love lives. Now in Getting Past Your Breakup, she'll help you put your energy back where it belongs--on you. Her plan includes:
- The rules of disengagement: how and why to go "no contact" with your ex
- How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life
- The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships
- What to do when you can't stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house
From Publishers Weekly
An estimated 43 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in separation or divorce, a grim reminder that most all of us experiences at least one painful breakup in our lifetimes; speaker and certified grief therapist Elliot has come to understand that many aren't successful in overcoming that pain, which can stall anyone's personal and professional life indefinitely. Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex's house or obsessed with self-blame. She advises a cold-turkey, "No Contact" blanket rule, but doesn't ignore the reality of situations involving mutual friends or a shared workplace, and provides seven rules for making things easier on the kids. As the end of a relationship can be much like the death of a loved one, Elliott also reviews the grief process and its importance in processing loss. While working through grief and putting time into serious self-examination won't necessarily "transform your life into everything you've always wanted it to be," the payoff should be steady progress toward a mended heart, a clear conscience and a stronger sense of self.
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"Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex's house or obsessed with self-blame."―Publishers Weekly
"An excellent breakup book that assists not only in dealing with the shock of a relationship ending, but also how to move past the breakup to become a stronger, better person in spite/because of it. Topics such as dealing with breakup myths ('I need closure!') and boundaries (how do I not get into this situation ever again) are refreshing and well-suited to the tone and style. Highly recommended."―About.com ("Top Brekaup Books")
"What sets this book apart from other self help titles is the fact that the author has suffered the same type of heartache. The compassion her writing shows will quickly warm your heart. If you are getting over a failed marriage, or a breakup of a relationship, then this is the must have book that will get you past your pain and suffering...[It] offers hope to those who are suffering. It will show you how to change a life altering experience into something that will change your life for the better."
―Midwest Book Review
"Elliott is supremely practical and behavioral in her approach...Incredibly useful for people who need concrete advice on what to do next."―Huffington Post
"Read it if you want to feel like you're the best thing he never had...With tips and strategies for everything from how to be by yourself to Not Calling Him, Elliott's no-nonsense approach has made this break-up bible one of the most popular self-help books on the subject worldwide."―Marie Claire (UK)
"This practical book offers useful tips about how to get through the depressing post-breakup stages of loneliness and desolation. If you can't afford a therapist, this useful tome will help you take charge of your life instead of giving way to grief."―YourTango.com
"If you're in recovery from a relationship that ended...read this book."―Kansas City Star
"From the devastation that comes at the end of a relationship, through the reeling, dealing and healing, Elliott worms her way around all aspects of a broken heart...Getting Past Your Breakup will help you see a crystal-bright future."―"The Bookworm Sez" syndicated column
"A breakup is the best time to change your life, and this book will tell you how to do it. It will serve as a road map for getting over your ex and putting your energy back where it belongs: on you! Stories and strategies will keep you inspired as you permanently get over the breakup, get your confidence back and open yourself up to finding the love of your life. You can do it with this book."―Dating Advice.com, "9 Best Breakup Books of 2014"
"Elliott delivers the goods with a book that can help anyone get past a broken heart, and be stronger for it...The book provides solid, usable information told with compassionate understanding that really jumpstarts a heart that is on standby. As a motivational speaker and grief counselor, Elliott understands the steps that one goes through in order to fully grieve a loss, even a loss of love, and she really shows how to move beyond that grief by first processing, not ignoring it. This book is valuable to anyone struggling to get past a loss, or get over those lousy behaviors and thought patterns that seem to keep leading to broken relationships. The tools are priceless, and the inspiration to come out on top is what really makes this book stand out in the ocean of other self-help titles out there...Almost makes you want to find fifty ways to leave your lover!"―Curled Up with a Good Book