Stop Spinning, Start Breathing: Narcissist Abuse Recovery for Empowering the Empath
Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN 10: 1495253074
ISBN 13: 978-1495253072
Stop Spinning, Start Breathing - from the author of When Love Is a Lie
The characteristics of a narcissistic personality and/or narcissistic partner are such that once we finally bridge a connection to our partner's behaviors, there's simply no denying that we've found the answer. In an instant, we recognize our story as identical to all the others and our partner as interchangeable with every narcissist and sociopath on the planet. But making the discovery that the person we love is a fake doesn't magically give us the ability to walk away or make our codependency any easier to handle. Sadly enough, we become addicted to the very drama that we hate. In essence, we become the suffering - but it doesn't have to be that way. You can learn to mentally break free from the emotional abuse caused by a narcissist partner. Recovery from narcissist abuse is about coping with the emotional collateral damage of what you've experienced..and this is where Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, as a recovery workbook, will have the biggest impact.
Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, the follow-up/companion workbook to Zari Ballard's When Love Is a Lie, presents a journal-style recovery process that you, as a codependent victim, can begin at any time.....whether you're in the relationship or out of it, whether you're maintaining "no contact" or struggling with it, whether your being subjected to a narcissist's silent treatment... and even while the narcissist is hoovering to keep you in the loop. No one but you needs to be the wiser about your recovery. Finally, you can stop investigating the abuse and the narcissist because you already know the truth. Counteract the N's pathological agenda with an agenda of your own - to get better - and you can start right now from wherever you're at!
The recovery exercises in this 3-part workbook will show/teach you...
- how putting the relationship in its proper perspective - as simple as it sounds - really does end the suffering once and for all
- how mismanaging our own memories creates a relationship amnesia that keeps us addicted long after the Discard (and how to fix it!)
- to use simple logic as a way to navigate the confusion of cognitive dissonance
- to understand why there is so much pain and why any relationship with a narcissist will always be different than all the others
- that facing your fears/anxieties about ending the relationship will help you to recognize what it is that you're really afraid of
- to look in retrospect on life before the narcissist and decide now who/where you'll be going forward
- how to actually appreciate the silence of a silent treatment and use this time wisely to jump-start the healing
- to recognize and protect your personal boundaries so that no one - and especially the narcissist - can ever cross them again
- how learning to live "in the moment" is the key to breaking codependency and emotional addiction to anything
Once you allow yourself to get better, detaching from a narcissistic lover /partner occurs swiftly and with less sadness, erratic emotions stabilize, and life begins to make miraculous changes!
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From the Author
Zari Ballard is the founder of the narcissist abuse support website thenarcissisticpersonality.com and the author of five books about narcissism in relationships. On herwebsite, with her books, and through one-on-one phone consultationsupport, Zari helps thousands of abuse victims worldwide to rise abovethe chaos and turmoil of these types of relationships.
"For me personally, during those times when I really needed comfort andrelief, clinical mumbo jumbo about narcissism did nothing for me. Evennow, I'm confident that it only takes one book out there explaining whythese types of disordered personalities can never be fixed for us to"get" that part of the situation. But then what?" Stop Spinning, Start Breathing
Your relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or other toxic person does not have to technically be over in order for you to get better and move forward. In fact, particularly in these types of dysfunctional situations, there's no time like now to begin putting the relationship in its proper light...to start seeingthe narcissist exposed in all his emptiness...to start managing yourmemories according to reality and not fantasy. Treat your recovery likeany other recovery and commit to getting better - whether you're stillinvolved with this person or not.
Although I am not a doctor,teacher, or anyone formally educated on the topic of narcissism, I would confidently discuss/debate my knowledge with those who are. I just know what I know from first-hand experience and careful observation. You can find your way to narcissist abuse recovery (and this includes recoveryfrom sociopaths and psychopaths as well) and you can get on the road tofeeling normal in a reasonable amount of time. In my opinion, recoveryfrom this type of emotional abuse begins with facing the facts of yourrelationship head-on. So fear not and let's go forward - I'm with youall the way!
About the Author
Zari is a Freelance Writer/Author (and single mom) who resides with her son in Tucson, AZ at the base of the beautiful Catalina Mountains. Born and raised in Rhode Island, Zari, then an aspiring journalist, graduated from Rhode Island College with a B A in Mass Media Communications/English and headed off from the ocean state for a life in the Southwest.
In 2005, when her son's diagnosis with child-onset schizophrenia changed everything, Zari set aside the executive rat race in lieu of a home-based career as a Freelance Writer. A leap of faith that could have gone either way, the choice to work from home was meant-to-be and she has never looked back.
Motivated by the success of When Love Is a Lie & Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, Zari has since published two additional books about narcissism in relationships - Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No-Contact Break-Up and When Evil Is a Pretty Face, a book written for male victims of female narcissists. Zari is also writing a memoir about her son's life and recording a podcast series based on her books about narcissism.
For informative articles on narcissism and the opportunity to communicate with Zari in forum-style conversations, please visit Zari's blog TheNarcissisticPersonality.com.