Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder: Communication Skills to Manage Intense Emotions, Set Boundaries, and Reduce Conflict
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN 10: 1684030463
ISBN 13: 978-1684030460
In this compassionate guide, Jerold Kreisman—author of I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me—offers a powerful set of tools to help you express yourself, set boundaries, and cultivate healthy communication with a loved one who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD).
If you have a loved one with BPD, you need real, proven-effective strategies to help you navigate the intense emotions and conflict that can arise in daily interactions and conversations. People with BPD often feel anger, pain, and hurt from a history of invalidation and disappointment, and their difficulty in regulating emotions can lead to moments of lashing out that can confuse and upset those around them.
Written by a psychiatrist with more than 40 years of experience in treating BPD, Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder offers a breakthrough, compassionate approach to communicating with a loved one who has BPD. The SET (support, empathy, truth) method outlined in this book is a powerful and simple tool that will allow you to honestly address your loved one’s demands, assertions, and feelings while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. Each step builds on the last, helping you build up a consistent and reliable communication process.
In this book, you’ll find a review of BPD and the common communication problems inherent in the disorder. You’ll learn how SET can address these issues. And finally, you’ll find detailed examples of specific scenarios that can arise when talking to a loved one with BPD.
Remember—validation isn’t the same as agreement. You can help your loved one feel validated while still maintaining your own boundaries. This essential guide will show you how.
—Joel Paris, MD, professor in the department of psychiatry at McGill University, and author of Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder
—Sandy Hotchkiss, PsyD, LCSW, author of Why Is It Always About You?
—Joseph Burgo, PhD, psychotherapist, PsychologyToday blogger, and author of The Narcissist You Know, Why Do I Do That?, and the forthcoming Shame
—Merri Lisa Johnson, professor of women’s and gender studies at USC Upstate, and author of Girl in Need of a Tourniquet
—Beverly Engel, LMFT, author of It Wasn’t Your Fault
—Jeff Riggenbach, PhD, president at the CBT Institute of Oklahoma, and author of Borderline Personality Disorder Toolbox