The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children & Teenagers: How to Let Go of Excessive Stress, Anxiety and Worry and Raise Happy, Healthy, Resilient Families
Publisher: Hay House Inc.
ISBN 10: 9781401956066
ISBN 13: 978-1401956066
The experience of raising children can be one of life’s greatest gifts, but it can come with an overwhelming amount of stress and anxiety, while also generating feelings of self-doubt. Am I modeling the type of person I want my child to become? Am I doing enough to prepare my child to be resilient in an ever-changing world? Are my children happy and confident in themselves? In The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children & Teenagers, NY Times best-selling author Nick Ortner encourages readers to first take a look at the amount of stress and worry in their lives as parents, reminding readers that self-care is critical. In the first section of the book, parents are guided on using the revolutionary technique known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), or Tapping, to release parental overwhelm, quiet worry, manage conflict and transform their experience of parenthood. In the second section, Nick explores specific uses for Tapping with children, ranging from releasing negative emotions like anger, fear and phobias, to dealing with sadness, grief, guilt and shame. This powerful technique can even help with specific challenges such as anxiety disorders, difficulties with sleep, nightmares, performance anxiety, bullying, school jitters, divorce and much more. Nick emphasizes the importance of teaching children the social and emotional skills they need for success in life, school and work. This book will guide parents in using EFT Tapping to help their children learn how to handle emotional challenges by means of self-reflection, self-regulation and overall greater self-awareness. Through the use of easy-to-follow diagrams, links to step-by-step videos and dozens of Tapping tips, The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children & Teenagers offers an easy-to-use resource to help solve many of the emotional and social challenges that families deal with on a daily basis. Topics include: PART 1: CULTIVATING PEACE, BECOMING PRESENT Chapter 1: Kids, the Brain and Stress Chapter 2: Quick and Powerful Stress Relief Chapter 3: Releasing Parental Overwhelm Chapter 4: Quieting Worry Chapter 5: Reinventing Routinely Challenging Moments Chapter 6: Managing Conflict by Releasing Taboo Emotions Chapter 7: A Fresh Look at Transforming ParenthoodPART 2: TAPPING WITH CHILDREN Chapter 8: How to Tap with Children • Common Challenges Regarding Tapping with Children --Introducing Tapping to Children --Tapping with Elementary-School-Aged Children --Tapping with Middle-School-Aged Children --Tapping with Teenagers (High School) --Measuring Progress • Tapping Techniques You Can Try with Your Child --"Tell the Story" Technique --"The Box" Technique --Visualization Technique --Visualization Technique with Colors Chapter 9: "Disorders": Specific Help for the Child with Specific Needs • Tapping with Your Child: ADD & ADHD --Adult Tapping: Relieving Stress from Your Child’s ADD or ADHD --Overcoming Social Anxiety --Navigating Change --Overcoming Inattention --Overcoming Impulsivity • Tapping with Your Child: SENSORY PROCESSING DISORDER --Adult Tapping: Relieving Stress from Your Child’s SPD --Adjusting to a New School or Environment with SPD --Overcoming the Need for Excessive Stimuli --Overcoming Sensory Intolerance --Overcoming Social/Emotional Issues Related to SPD --Introducing a Sensory Object/Experience Chapter 10: "Negative" Emotions and How to Release Them • Tapping with Your Child: ANGER --Adult Tapping: Releasing the Taboo --Adult Tapping: From Release to Peace --Releasing Anger (Younger Children) --Releasing Anger toward Sibling(s) --Releasing Anger (Middle School & High School Ages) --Quieting an Angry Outburst • Tapping with Your Child: FEARS AND PHOBIAS --Adult Tapping: Releasing Fear --Overcoming Fears Related to Past Events --Overcoming the Fear of Needles --Releasing the Fear of Spiders (and Other Creatures) --Releasing the Resistance to Completely Eliminate a Fear --Overcoming Fear of Water --Releasing Fear(s) from a Scary Movie --Eliminating Fears & Phobias ("Scan the Body" Technique) --Eliminating the Fear of the Dark --Overcoming the Fear of Loud Noises (Sirens, Etc.) • Tapping with Your Child: SADNESS --Adult Tapping: Making Peace with Sadness --What Am I Sad About? --Releasing Sadness about a Situation --Feeling More Joy • Tapping with Your Child: GRIEF --Adult Tapping: Releasing Grief-Related Stress --Processing Grief over a Loved One --Opening to Support and Community after Loss --Processing Grief over Losing a Grandparent --Processing Grief over Losing a Pet • Tapping with Your Child: DEPRESSION --Adult Tapping: Releasing Stress around Your Child’s Depression --Shedding "The Blues" --Moving beyond Irritability --Moving beyond Hopelessness --"All I Want to Do Is______" • Tapping with Your Child: GUILT --Adult Tapping: Releasing Parental Guilt --"I Lied/I Did a Bad Thing" --"I Didn’t Do Enough" --"I Shouldn’t Be This Good at School/Sports/Etc." --Releasing Traumatic Survivor’s Guilt • Tapping with Your Child: SHAME AND SELF-HATRED --Adult Tapping: Releasing Angst over Your Child’s Shame --Letting Go of "You’re So _____" Remarks --Releasing Stress from Self-Esteem Challenges --Feeling Safe with Shame --Releasing Self-Shaming Beliefs --Feeling Self-Love --Envisioning Unconditional Love Chapter 11: Stress, Anxiety and Their Side Effects • Tapping with Your Child: ANXIETY DISORDERS --Adult Tapping: Releasing Anxiety about Your Child’s Disorder --Overcoming Social Anxiety --Releasing Anxiety from Being Excluded --Quieting a Panic Attack --Overcoming Obsessive Behavior --Overcoming Selective Mutism • Tapping with Your Child: SLEEP --Adult Tapping: Falling Asleep, Waking Rested --Quieting an Active Mind at Bedtime --Relaxing Body & Mind at Bedtime --Falling Back Asleep • Tapping with Your Child: NIGHTMARES --Adult Tapping: Releasing the Stress from Your Child’s Nightmares --Neutralizing Nightmares and Tapping at Bedtime to Prevent Nightmares --Neutralizing Nightmares after Traumas Chapter 12: School Issues • Tapping with Your Child: PERFORMANCE ANXIETY --Adult Tapping: Overcoming Parental Performance Anxiety --Releasing Test Anxiety --Transforming "I’m Bad at ______" Beliefs --Quieting Anxiety-Fueled Outbursts --Preparing for Competition
"Contrary to popular belief, a parent’s primary role is to provide spiritual mentorship and support. But how? This treasure trove of a text provides exactly the tools you need to heal, protect, and find balance — for yourself and your little ones."
— Kelly Brogan, M.D., holistic psychiatrist and author of the New York Times bestseller A Mind of Your Own
"It has been said that the wounds of the 8th grade have the half life of uranium. In truth, many people carry the wounds and shame of their childhood and schooling right on into adulthood and then pass them on to their children.
"But it doesn’t have to be this way. There is a scientifically based method that changes the way the mind and body respond to stress... transforming it into empowerment and lifelong skills for living well.
"In The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children & Teenagers, Nick Ortner gives you all the tools you need to help you and your kids live a healthier, more stress-resilient life. I also happen to know Nick and his wonderful extended family. All of them are living proof that this practical approach works. And it’s at your fingertips. Every parent needs this book!"
— Christiane Northrup, M.D., author of the New York Times bestsellers Goddesses Never Age and Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
"I can’t think of a better resource to have on hand when raising children than this book!
"Whether you and your child are dealing with social anxiety, fears and phobias, bullying, or the heartbreaking loss of a first love, The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children & Teenagers will provide you with a simple, yet powerful, tool to turn pain and stress into peace and sanity in no time.
"This book is a must-have manual for every parent!"
— Cheryl Richardson, New York Times best-selling author of Take Time for Your Life
"Too many of our children are anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed. Too many are feeling lost and hopeless. The Tapping Solution for Parents, Children & Teenagers may be just what they and their parents need to bring their lives back in balance. This book gives me hope about our collective future."
— Kris Carr, New York Times best-selling author (and EFT lover)
"If you’re human, you most likely experienced a traumatic event in your childhood. Unfortunately, most of us grew up without any way of processing, communicating, and releasing these painful events. It doesn’t need to be this way for our kids. Nick Ortner has a breakthrough technique that your child can use to recalibrate and empower themselves in those dark moments, and he is going to teach you how to bring it into your daily life.
"This book is a must-read for parents and kids of all ages — consider it first aid for your child’s self-esteem and mental wellness. As a father of two young boys, I highly recommend it!"
— Nick Polizzi, founder of The Sacred Science
"The most important responsibility nature bestows on every new parent is to raise offspring who are happy, healthy, and able to contribute to and advance their culture. This challenge has never been greater than it is today.
"Fortunately, we have at our disposal powerful practices that were not available to our parents or any generation before them.
"Nick Ortner brings some of the most potent of these tools to every parent and child who wishes to learn them, and he offers these resources in a wonderfully practical and accessible format."
— Donna Eden and David Feinstein, co-authors of The Promise of Energy Psychology and The Energies of Love
"In a time where video games and searching the internet are the number one activities for beating stress amongst our teens, there is a need for something more effective.
"This wonderful resource for teens as well as younger children and parents teaches an extremely effective stress management tool, and Nick presents it in a very easy-to-learn way. An absolute must for any coffee table at home."
— Peta Stapleton, PhD, author of EFT for Teens and Tapping in the Classroom
"The two hardest things about being a parent are: How can we take care of ourselves when there are others who rely on us being present, and wondering if we're going to do something wrong to mess them up for life?
"Nick’s work has helped our family learn the tools to help lessen the worry and fear around raising kids. We've used these techniques for ourselves to address our fears of being parents and to calm ourselves down when we're on the edge. We've also used tapping with our children to help our son relax when he's having a tantrum, and even using it to help our daughter with toilet training!
"We highly, highly recommend this book!"
— Kevin and Annmarie Gianni, founders of Annmarie Gianni Skin Care
About the Author
NICOLAS ORTNER is the Founder and CEO of The Tapping Solution, LLC. He has been a leader in the movement to introduce EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), an innovative self-care method of healing, into the mainstream. EFT Tapping is a simple, effective, natural healing method that combines ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology. Nick has shared this powerful technique with millions of people, helping them to connect with their unique potential, take control of their personal health and healing, and manifest happy, productive, abundant lives. Nick Ortner is the New York Times best-selling author of "The Tapping Solution: A Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living," and "The Tapping Solution for Pain Relief: A Step-by-Step Guide to Reducing and Eliminating Chronic Pain." Nick's newest book, "The Tapping Solution for Manifesting Your Greatest Self: 21 Days to Releasing Self-Doubt, Cultivating Inner Peace, and Creating a Life You Love," guides readers through a 21-day process of self-discovery and self-development. Prior to the publication of these books, Nick created and produced the breakthrough documentary film "The Tapping Solution," which follows ten people who used Tapping to overcome significant challenges, including chronic back pain, fibromyalgia, insomnia, devastating grief and more. Nick's books and film document real and extraordinary results that have inspired tens of thousands to follow suit by successfully applying Tapping in their lives. His online events and speaking engagements have been attended by participants all over the world. Nick has also produced first-of-their-kind online programs that teach easy, effective ways to apply EFT Tapping to anything limiting a person's life or health. Some noteworthy examples are: The "Tapping World Summit," a free, annual worldwide online event that has been attended by over 1,000,000 people (www.tappingworldsummit.com) and Nick's popular seven-week EFT coaching programs, which provide guidance on achieving common personal objectives such as financial abundance, weight loss and more. Nick is co-founder of The Tapping Solution Foundation and an active board member of The National Institute of Integrative Healthcare and The Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement. Nick and the Tapping Solution team are committed to spreading Tapping throughout the world, and in particular to supporting its revolutionary and life-changing use. Together, they have raised over $1,000,000 for tapping-related charities such as Project Light, which aids genocide orphans in Rwanda, Africa (www.projectlightrwanda.com), The Veterans Stress Project, supporting veterans with PTSD (www.stressproject.org), You Can Thrive!, a New York organization providing services for women with cancer (www.youcanthrive.org) in addition to working with The Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement to provide Tapping lessons for their social and emotional learning curriculum (jesselewischooselove.org). The Tapping Solution Foundation was founded in 2013 by Nick and his siblings, Alex and Jessica, to support the community of Newtown, CT after the tragic shootings at the Sandy Hook Elementary School. All royalties from the sale of this book, in perpetuity, will be donated to The Tapping Solution Foundation to support their work in promoting EFT Tapping to parents, teachers and students, and for other impactful projects. For more information, visit www.tappingsolutionfoundation.org. Nick lives in Newtown, CT with his wife, Brenna, and daughter, June. Follow Nick on Facebook at Facebook.com/Nortner on Twitter @NickOrtner and on Instagram @nickortner.