Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy
Publisher: Tyndale Momentum
ISBN 10: 1496439651
ISBN 13: 978-1496439659
In the wise and soulful tradition of teachers like Shauna Niequist and Brene Brown, therapist Aundi Kolber debuts with Try Softer, helping us align our mind, body, and soul to live the life God created for us.
In a world that preaches a “try harder” gospel―just keep going, keep hustling, keep pretending we’re all fine―we’re left exhausted, overwhelmed, and so numb to our lives. If we’re honest, we’ve been overfunctioning for so long, we can’t even imagine another way. How else will things get done? How else will we survive?
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Aundi Kolber believes that we don’t have to white-knuckle our way through life. In her debut book, Try Softer, she’ll show us how God specifically designed our bodies and minds to work together to process our stories and work through obstacles. Through the latest psychology, practical clinical exercises, and her own personal story, Aundi equips and empowers us to connect us to our truest self and truly live. This is the “try softer” life.
In Try Softer, you’ll learn how to:
- Know and set emotional and relational boundaries
- Make sense of the difficult experiences you’ve had
- Identify your attachment style―and how that affects your relationships today
- Move through emotions rather than get stuck by them
- Grow in self-compassion and talk back to your inner critic
Therapist Kolber (Relevant) targets the “overextended, overburdened, and overwrought” in this persuasive take on adopting a happy (and easy) lifestyle. . . . Kolber offers practices that enable a life of “trying softer,” among them scripts for better communication, exercises for getting in tune with emotions, and tips for reasoning with one’s “internal critic”―such as concentrating on “mindfulness, self-kindfulness, and common humanity”―to allay self-judgment. Kolber provides steady, helpful guidance for “the parts of your soul screaming to be loved in extravagant ways.” Mental health professionals and general readers dealing with anxiety will find many serviceable exercises in Kolber’s useful guide. -- Publishers Weekly
In a world that tells us we’d better be crushing it or killing it if we want to make it, Aundi Kolber has a revolutionary approach―trying softer. With grace, wisdom, and candor, Try Softer gives us hope for a different way―lives of connection and attention instead of competition and distraction. If you’re weary of trying so hard (who isn’t?), then try softer. You’ll be glad you did. -- Nicole Unice, Pastor, counselor, and author of The Struggle Is Real